HAPPINESS
What is happiness? It is an indefinable, peace-filled state of being, in which a person feels content, free of worries, and satisfied. It is an ideal state that everyone, consciously or unconsciously, strives for. The quest for happiness motivates our actions, but few of us are able to be happy all the time.
Why is happiness so hard to attain and hold on to? Why does it slip through our hands so easily? Probably because it is a lofty state of consciousness and is easily obscured or extinguished by the intrusion of worries, cares, frustrations, anger, and other negative emotions. Happiness is, for most of us, a fragile flower, highly esteemed, which only keeps its freshness and beauty for a time, then fades with the arrival of fear, worry, restlessness, or strife.
In order to enjoy happiness most of the time, we must cultivate a state of mind in which it can grow and flourish without being destroyed by passing moods and personal difficulties. This is a great challenge for each of us, but we can learn to enrich the soil of our consciousness so that the flower of happiness will take root and be able to grow and endure. Happiness needs to be nourished by constructive thoughts: gratitude, respect for others, appreciation for the beauty in God’s creation. It must be protected from destructive emotions and attitudes that cause it to wither and die, such as fear, greed, anger, jealousy, condemnation. If we want to be happy, we must cultivate self-control and strength of character so that we can stay positive when things “go wrong”, and resist temptations so we do not fall prey to bad habits and materialistic attachments, which entangle one in a vicious circle of pleasure seeking, struggle and pain. We must live in harmony with universal principles of moral conduct, which really are guidelines for finding happiness, both as individuals and as groups of people. Otherwise, we will be haunted by guilt and remorse, not to mention all the other misery-making consequences of selfish, self-centered attitudes and actions. There is no way to attain lasting happiness except by cultivating unselfish, constructive habits of thought and action. People who try to accumulate wealth or personal advantage at the cost of the well-being of others are only fooling themselves. They may succeed in their games, but their selfish, materialistic attitudes will prevent them from being able to enjoy the finer pleasures and joys of life. Peace of mind, meaningful relationships, and spiritual joys will pass them by.
The key to all of this is divine, unconditional love. To be happy, we need to live in divine love ... love that has no boundaries and is freely extended to all. Such love heals discord within ourselves, counteracts fear and other happiness-destroying emotions, and bestows peace of mind, contentment, joy, and harmony. It automatically produces moral behavior and brings us closer to God. With love, all things are possible, forgiveness flows easily, and emotional wounds are healed. As love lights up the soul, we both radiate and receive divine blessings, and the happiness we feel grows stronger and more enduring.
Now, along with living a disciplined, moral, constructive life, and dwelling in love, what else is required in order to be happy? Well, in this world, our state of mind is conditioned by the necessities of life—food, shelter, health, and so on; and these needs, in turn, can only be met by adequate income and a supportive environment that provide for our physical and emotional well-being. We have to keep informed of what is going on in the world around us and provide for ourselves and our families, so that our basic needs can be met. Otherwise, we will be unhappy. So happiness depends not only on spiritual strength and emotional well-being, but also on the physical necessities of life, and we have to work and keep abreast of changes in the world around us in order to obtain these basic necessities. If we know ourselves as one with God, as some of the saints have done, our needs will be few, but we will still require food, shelter, and some basic necessities.
You may wonder if all the requirements I have mentioned so far are enough to guarantee happiness. If our basic needs and those of our family members are being reasonably well provided for, if we practice self-control and are doing our best each day to live in a loving, caring consciousness, concerned with the needs of others and doing what we can to help them, will we be happy? The answer to this question depends on the extent of our development. Abundant, unalloyed happiness is difficult for most of us to obtain and hold on to because negative moods come from time to time and steal our peace of mind. But we can and should work constantly on improving our spiritual well-being, so that negative attitudes will be weeded out of our minds and replaced with positive, constructive habits of thought and action. The more we progress in developing ourselves spiritually, the less we will be bothered by negative emotions and the greater will be the happiness that we attain.
PRAYER TO THE ONE IN ALL
Thou art the light of infinite oneness.
Enlighten me so I may see
That Thou and I and all are one.
Amen —George Johnston